“It’s not funny, I didn’t laugh.” How many times did you hear that after you gave everything to say a joke and amuse your friends? Humor is very subjective around teenagers and young adults and it isn’t your fault if you hear those words. We know that maybe, you need to practice more and be careful what kind of jokes you tell them.
Some people are too sensitive and take these jokes as something personal. We know if you say the right jokes to the right people, you will be successful and your friends won’t get mat at you.
But why do people get so offended when you’re telling them jokes? Maybe it’s not the joke, but the message behind it. It’s something common that happens all the time. People that feel complexed by their skin color, their hair or their weight, then maybe racist jokes are not for them. It’s natural to refer to them as a problem that should be fixed or as if they are so funny just because they look like this.
When we tell jokes, we should know the people before saying it, because it may upset the person without realizing. Three things you should do before telling a joke.
- Check the person, if they are comfortable with you first.
You can notice that by how the person feels around you, if both of you can talk about many things. I would send some memes and general jokes first to see how it’s going to react and then you will have to figure it out.
- Check more about what kind of humor she/he likes.
It may surprise you, but people have weird taste in humor and you may be feeling reticent about ginger jokes, but the person will be into dark humor or black jokes. It’s great to ask before assuming things. Most people use humor as a coping mechanism.
- If you tell a joke that bothers them, apologize.
Check them if they are bothered by your jokes and behavior and try to explain to them that they are not targeted when you’re doing this bad joke. Sometimes it’s ok to cry at bad jokes.
